Who doesn't like to see a good "celebrities without make up" photo? Our catty-inner-mean-girl aside, it's actually a good thing to see the reality of magazine cover "beauty." Countless surveys reveal that looking at these picture-perfect images impacts what we believe about our own beauty. (And it's not making us feel great!) The younger you are, the more likely you are to believe that you can never be beautiful because the standard is so pore-free, zit-free, full-head-of-hair flawless! I'd love to see every mom sit down with her daughters and look at just how big the lies are that these photos tell. But so many times those links you click are full of sensual poses and topless women. For every mom out there who wants to show their daughter the lie but not the porn, I've created a collection of six telling images just for you. (Seven if you count the perfected photo of Katy Perry to the left.)
Before you look at these photos remember this: these women are masterpieces created by God, too! Just like you and I. (And I bet they hate seeing bad photos of themselves just like you and I.) I selected these photos carefully because though they look very "real", I think they also look very pretty before they were "perfected" in by Photoshop in the images below.
1.) Britney Spears hair is volumized in Photoshop, and her skin is made wrinkle-free and luminescent. Just look at how they thinned her neck and chin. This photo is not real beauty.
2.) Lindsay Lohan loses all those freckles that made her such an adorable twin in The Parent Trap. They also took a few years of age off of her, and made her face look nearly like a painting. This photo is not real beauty.
3.) Angelina Jolie is a stunning woman without a lot of make up, but apparently not stunning enough. They smoothed out her skin, erased either a mole or an imperfection on her cheek, thinned out her eyebrows, and whitened her eyes. This photo is not real beauty.
4.) Penelope Cruz loses the dark circles under here eyes, smile lines in her face, and a bit of age in her hand in this one. This photo is not real beauty.
5.) Miley Cyrus didn't need much perfecting. She's a doll. But look at how they thinned her already perfect figure, plumped up the size of her breasts, and thinned her stomache. This photo is not real beauty.
6.) Beyonce loses a few pounds in this photo. And while they were at it, they erased all her acne and the ashy look of her skin. This photo is not real beauty.
In this world full of lies about beauty, it's so important to talk to your daughter about what true beauty really looks like. You have to go farther than the mall, and deeper than your closet. You can't find it in a make-up palette. It's a hidden treasure. Deep within where beauty doesn't fade, but increases with age. And when you find it, you realize that what's on the outside really is a masterpiece created by God. No Photoshop required.
"Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious." I Peter 3:3,4
Dannah Gresh is a best-selling author and mother/daughter communications coach. Her 8 Great Dates for Moms & Daughters: How To Talk About True Beauty, Cool Fashion, & Modesty engages moms and their tween girls in eight interactive, critical conversations about true beauty.