Happily Even After: A Redemption Story Podcast
By Bob & Dannah Gresh
In the Happily Even After podcast, you’ll hear a story of a husband and wife who did not ride off into the sunset but found themselves fighting a man’s fierce battle with lust and pornography. Bob and Dannah Gresh are raw, real and honest. Their guests are wise experts in the work of marriage recovery. Some have degrees in therapy and psychology. Others learned their lessons on the hot pavement of life. All of them will tell you the truth—what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear. They’ll help you explore seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption. And, by the way, you can live “happily even after.
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Pilot: Making a Lie Our Refuge
In this pilot episode of the Happily Even After, Bob and Dannah Gresh explain how they got here—on a podcast for marriages impacted by lust and pornography. They explain the clinical complexities of addiction and how they got the right kind of help. (Dannah might confess to throwing things!) This is your invitation to explore seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption. And to begin to live “happily even after” porn, addiction, trauma, and pain.
Episode #1: Pulling Back the Curtain
In episode #1 of the Happily Even After podcast, Bob and Dannah Gresh talk about how important it is not to shut off your emotions . . . even though you might want to. They introduce you to Truth #1: emotions are essential ingredients of intimacy. (Bob will transparently share how he feels about telling their story!) Let’s begin to explore seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption. And to begin to live “happily even after” porn, addiction, trauma, and pain.
Buy the Happily Even After Book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Glorious Unfolding by Steven Curtis Chapman.
Dannah teaches at the Pure Freedom Master Class (Chloe’s Story).
Jimmy & Kelly Needham on Revive Our Hearts.
Bob and Dannah share their story for the first time on Revive Our Hearts. (Audio only)
WATCH:
Watch the Bob Newhart Show on Hulu.
Bob shares his testimony with students at Cedarville University chapel.
Rosie MaKinney with Jim Daly on Focus on the Family.
Bob and Dannah share their story for the first time on Revive Our Hearts. (Video)
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies co-founded by Pete Kuiper • Buena Vista, Colorado
Faithful and True • Eden Prairie, MN
River Tree Center • Murfreesboro, TN
Alongside Cares • Richland, MI
Episode #2: Glorious Unfolding
In episode #2 of the Happily Even After podcast, Bob and Dannah Gresh talk about the gift of full disclosure—how to do it well and mistakes they made along the way. They’ll help you gain clarity about how significant your problem is—or isn’t. Together, you’ll explore Truth #2: honest confession is the beginning of healing, one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption. And to begin to live “happily even after” porn, addiction, trauma, and pain.
Buy the Happily Even After Book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Glorious Unfolding by Steven Curtis Chapman.
Dannah teaches at the Pure Freedom Master Class (Chloe’s Story).
Mark and Debbie Laaser on the Faithful & True Podcast
Mark Laaser discusses addiction on Pure Passion Media
Bob and Dannah share their story for the first time on Revive Our Hearts. (Audio only)
WATCH:
Bob and Dannah share their story for the first time on Revive Our Hearts. (Video)
Episode #3: Call A Second Ambulance
In episode #3 of the Happily Even After podcast, Bob and Dannah Gresh unpack the cycle many couples find themselves in of constance confession and relapse. They’ll introduce a powerful team approach to breaking the cycle with Truth #3: boundaries can bring holiness and health to your life. It’s one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption. And to begin to live “happily even after” porn, addiction, trauma, and pain.
Buy the Happily Even After Book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Bob and Dannah talk with Bob Lepine on Revive Our Hearts.
Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken talks to Dr. Juli Slattery on Java with Juli.
Love & Lust sermon by Pastor Tim Keller.
WATCH:
Bob and Dannah share their story for the first time on Revive Our Hearts. (Video)
Episode #4: One Black Couch & Two Red Chairs
Dannah gets radically vulnerable in episode #4 of the Happily Even After podcast with Bob and Dannah Gresh. You’ll hear a Spirit-empowered story of one couple’s disclosure day as you explore Truth #4: forgiveness is a supernatural act that produces freedom. It’s one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption.
Buy the Happily Even After Book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Dannah talks about forgiveness on Revive Our Hearts.
WATCH:
Ashley Jameson talks to Dr. Barbara Steffens for Pure Desire.
Voddie Baucham preaches on forgiveness on Truth Endures.
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
CrossRoads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
River Tree Center (Tennessee)
Faithful&True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Be Free with Jonathan Daughtery (Various Locations)
Episode #5: The Cookie Jar
Can you ever experience trust in your relationship again? It’s one of the most pressing questions couples face. In episode #5 of the Happily Even After podcast with Bob and Dannah Gresh you’ll hear from the hear some oft-neglected biblical Truth about trust. You’ll hear why Bob and Dannah like a full “cookie jar.” We’re exploring Truth #5: trust is a gift you choose to give. It’s one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption.
Buy the Happily Even After Book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Rosie Makinney’s podcast Fight for Love episode 5: “Will I ever trust him again?”
WATCH:
Chris and Cindy Beall talk about rebuilding trust on Focus on the Family.
Dan and Lynn Nold on Calvary At Home.
READ:
Common Ground: Finding Sacred Space in Your Marriage by Mike and Debby Bivins
Healing Your Marriage When Trust Has Been Broken by Cindy Beall
Episode #6: “Get the dog out of the bed!”
How do you rebuild your sex life after trust is broken? We called a Christian sex therapist to get some gritty and practical advice for episode #6 of the Happily Even After podcast with Bob and Dannah Gresh. We’ll talk about everything from female orgasm to pelvic floor therapy to the tender topic of abuse. We’re exploring Truth #6: intimacy is about giving your whole self to your spouse. It’s one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Jonathan Daughtery talks about “Lust Land” on Java with Juli
Love & Lust sermon by Pastor Tim Keller
WATCH:
Dr. Juli Slattery talks about sex on Revive Our Hearts’ Grounded
Leslie Vernick talks about “destructive relationships” with Lysa Terkeurst on Therapy & Theology
CONTACT:
Joyce Penner at Passionate Commitment for sex therapy
Episode #7: The Truth About Men & Church
You are not alone. Our entire culture is experiencing great unhappiness due to the sexual revolution. With the help of John Mark Comer, we’ll grapple with the lies our culture tells us about sex. Dr. Juli Slattery will explain why Jesus is the only hope for overcoming them. And we’re gonna tell you the truth about why some men hate church. We’re exploring Truth #7: the Truth will set you free. It’s one of seven beliefs every marriage needs to experience God’s redemption.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
ATTEND:
Join us for a marriage weekend in the Dominican Republic with Pete Kuiper
LISTEN:
David Murrow talks about “Why Men Leave the Church” on Dr James Dobson’s Family Talk
WATCH:
Bob Gresh tells students at Cedarville University “You are not alone”
Dr. Judith Reisman & Jeremy Wiles on Alfred Kinsey by KingdomWorks Studio
Juli Slattery on sexual discipleship Revive Our Hearts’ Grounded
John Mark Comer talks with Carey Nieuwhof about sex lies
Josh McDowell talks to Pure Desire about the effects of pornography.
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
CrossRoads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
Faithful&True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Be Free with Jonathan Daughtery (Various Locations)
Episode #8: Should We Tell The Kids
It’s one of the most common questions couples ask: “should we tell the kids?” Opinions vary. Bob and Dannah tell you where they landed and how a conversation with Bob’s current therapist, Phil Herdnon gave them confidence that it was the right one for them.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
ATTEND:
Join us for a marriage weekend in the Dominican Republic with Pete Kuiper
READ
Covenant Eyes provides “10 Shocking Stats About Teens and Pornography”
WATCH:
Chris McKenna on a True Girl workshop titled “How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography”
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
CrossRoads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
Faithful&True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Be Free with Jonathan Daughtery (Various Locations)
Episode #9: All right, let’s talk about abuse!
Do you ever wonder if what’s happening in your marriage might classify as abuse? Sometimes a husband is guilty. Sometimes a wife is. Why do you need to know? So you can get the right kind of help. Learn five red flags that are tell-tale signs of abuse. And meet two experts who can guide your learning curve.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
CALL SOMEONE:
If you feel you need help navigating abuse, call someone.
ATTEND:
Join us for a marriage weekend in the Dominican Republic with Pete Kuiper
LISTEN:
Bob and Dannah talk with Charlynn Steinkamp on Fight for Your Marriage
WATCH:
Lysa Terkuerst & Leslie Vernick discuss “difficult & destructive marriages on Therapy & Theology
Dannah talks with Diane Langberg on Revive Our Hearts’ Grounded
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
CrossRoads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
Faithful&True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Be Free (Various Locations)
Episode #10: The Sex Therapy Session
Today Bob and Dannah Gresh bring you more advice from their sex therapist, Joyce Penner. You’ll get practical encouragement for how to rebuild your intimacy along with a book recommendation that’ll help you feel like you’re not alone if you’re experiencing barriers in the bedroom.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
Use the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.
LISTEN:
Shaunti Feldhahn talks with Erin Davis about “Why we still need sexual integrity” on Grounded
Chelsea and Layton Boeve on the Liberator podcast
CONTACT:
Joyce Penner at Passionate Commitment for sex therapy
Find a Christian sex therapist near you at Dr. Michael Sytsma’s Sexual Wholeness, Inc.
READ:
Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises that Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma
Enjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Clifford and Joyce Penner
The Married Guys Guide to Great Sex by Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner
Episode #11: Lies, Labels, & Duct Tape
If you’re having a party, Bob Gresh is the guy to invite. (Dannah might be studying, though.) Bob confesses how he compared himself to Dannah and felt “less than.” But he learned to stop wearing the label of “lazy” when he began to understand the power of believing what God the Father has said about him. You can stop comparing, competing, and campaigning. Replace the lies and labels in your life with God’s Truth. (And duct tape will be involved.)
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
Use the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.
LISTEN:
Episode #2 “Glorious Unfolding” of Happily Even After
GET TICKETS:
Attend the Born to Be Brave tour for fathers and sons
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies with Pete Kuiper (Colorado)
River Tree Center (Tennessee)
Faithful &True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Episode #12: The Secret of The Lord
You were created to experience connection with God and with others. But sin separates us. Dannah explores how the pathway back to being connected to God and community is radical vulnerability. Through an exploration of her life verse, Psalm 25:14, Dannah explains why honest confession matters so much…not just in our relationship with each other, but also with God.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
Use the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.
LISTEN:
Episode #2 “Glorious Unfolding” of Happily Even After
GET TICKETS:
Attend Flourish for women with Dannah Gresh, Erin Davis, and Stephanie Martinez
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies with Pete Kuiper (Colorado)
River Tree Center (Tennessee)
Faithful &True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Episode #13: How to Survive A Porn Confession
Every time you confess sin is a victory! But when it comes to confessing a porn addiction or a relapse to your partner, it has to be done well. Otherwise, you’ll do extra damage. Today on the podcast, Bob and Dannah explore tips for making the confession experience as healthy as possible. Guests include Layton and Chelsea Boeve of the Liberator podcast, and Phil Herdnon, Bob’s licensed therapist.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
Use the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.
LISTEN:
Liberator with Layton and Chelsea Boeve
READ:
“Everytime I Confess Sin Is A Victory” from Covenant Eyes
“How to Confess Porn Addiction to Your Spouse” by Jen Ferguson from Covenant Eyes
“Confessing Lust to Your Wife: How Detailed Should You Be” by Luke Gilkerson from Covenant Eyes
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
Faithful &True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
Episode #14: How long does recovery take?
People quit porn every day. Not that many actually enter into the hard work of recovery. But you can be among them. Today with the continued help of Layton and Chelsea Boeve of the Liberator podcast, Bob and Dannah will try to answer the question: how long does recovery take? And Bob’s counselor, Phil Herdnon, will help you make sense of the presence of depression in the recovery process.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
Use the coupon code “HEA” to get a free month of Covenant Eyes screen accountability.
LISTEN:
Liberator Episode 1 with Layton and Chelsea Boeve
Get the Dog Out of the Bed, Happily Even After Episode #5
WATCH:
“Washington’s Dream” by Nate Bargatze on Saturday Night Live
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
Faithful &True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)
EPISODE #15- The First Time We Told Our Story (Gulp!)
It’s safe to say that if someone in your church, your neighborhood, or your small group is reeling from porn addiction…it may be time to speak up and walk beside them. Telling your story tells them, “you’re not alone.” Bob and Dannah Gresh told their story for the first time at a True Woman conference. In this episode of Happily Even After, they’ll share that message and some encouragement for you as you consider when it might be the right time to share your story.
Buy the Happily Even After book by Dannah Gresh
LISTEN:
Need Help Lovin’ The Man from True Woman 2017 by Revive Our Hearts
RECOMMENDED INTENSIVES FOR COUPLES & INDIVIDUALS:
Crossroads Counseling of the Rockies (Colorado)
River Tree Center with Phil Herdnon (Tennessee)
Faithful &True (Minnesota)
Alongsides Care (Michigan)