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Is It OK To Sleep Over at My Boyfriend's?

She goes to school at Penn State. He's a student at Ohio State. Rivalry aside, passion burns. The good kind that tells them "this is it." 322.97 miles separate them, creating an invitation to consume copious amounts of gasoline between State College, PA and Columbus, OH. That's expensive. So, they try to save money where they can. Hotel bills seem like a good place to cut costs. When they visit each other, they sleep over in one another's apartments. Completely platonic, of course. They insist there's no other solution and there's never been any sex. Ever. That could never happen. They're both Christians. Is this OK? Sleeping over has been called one of the newest trends in "Christians sketchiness." I'll go with that. I think it's possible to sleep over at your boyfriend's without eventually having sex, but not probable. Let me tell you why.

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nonSpeed Dating for Dummies: does he protect your purity?

Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn't have to be so rushed. It does have to be right.

[Bonus material from Get Lost.]

Celebs like Ashton Kutcher, Bradley Cooper, Jamie Foxx, Justin Timberlake and more joined forces to collaborate on a campaign to stop men from using girls to mop up their own selfish sexual needs.  Whatever you think of the self deprecating humor they used in their commercials to raise awareness of sex trafficking, the message is loud and clear: “Real Men Don’t Buy Girls.” A watching world applauded the celebs as heroes. Sex trafficking is an issue that is important to me and very personal.  I have one adopted daughter whom we rescued out of a rape culture. And another who has chosen to be a student activitist fighting it. Her work began in one of the vilest places on the planet where girls are intentionally bred to be sold by their families into the sex industry when they turn twelve. I know what a culture that endorses rape looks like. And I despise it.

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nonSpeed Dating for Dummies: is he willing to inconvenience himself for you?

Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn't have to be so rushed. It does have to be right.

[Bonus material from Get Lost.]

  Dannah Helping NessieI have enjoyed a special connection with Nessie and her mama Scout. I was Scout's midwife when Nessie came in to the world. You can see us cleaning Nessie,—just moments old—, as a team in the picture to the left. As I was writing Get Lost last summer, I looked out the window to see Nessie was communicating clearly to her mama, Scout. That baby wanted some of the wonderful llama milk under her mother’s belly. Scout was rather intent on walking over to the mound of hay Bob was putting out at that moment. She didn’t want to stop to nurse Nessie. That was clear. She put her ears back and attempted a gentle kick, but stopped short. There have been other times where Nessie, seeming to sense that her llama mama had some place to be, bounced along beside her suppressing her need to nurse until the pair arrived at their destination. This was not one of them. Baby needed milk. I saw the reluctance in Scout. She was eager to get her share of that hay from Farmer Bob. And the other llamas can eat so quickly! I didn’t think she was going to stop. But she did. She submitted to her baby’s need. Scout’s act of kindness really spoke volumes to my heart that day.

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nonSpeed Dating for Dummies: Is He A Believer?

Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn't have to be so rushed. It does have to be right.

[Bonus material from Get Lost.]

True love lasts. For Norma and Gordon Yeager it lasted through a 72-year marriage. Even death didn’t seem to be strong enough to separate them. They were over the age of 90 when they were in a car accident just outside of Marshalltown, Iowa. It didn’t look good for the pair. They were given a shared room in the Intensive Care Unit where they held hands in adjacent beds. At 3:38 p.m., Gordon’s breathing stopped. He was no longer alive. But his heart monitor continued to register a beat. A nurse observed that since they were holding hands, Norma’s heartbeat was going right through him! Norma died exactly one hour later at 4:38 p.m. It was then that both of their heart monitors fell silent.

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A Modest Proposal For My Critics

FtWayneIn the past thirty days, CBS has issued a modesty code for celebs attending the Grammy's while Christian websites and blogs have decried the modesty movement. Has the world been turned upside down? I encourage you to look at this very graphic visual showcase of just what caused CBS to become so "conservative." If a picture paints a thousand words, these five might paint a few million! The Daily News' pictures of Lil' Kim, Pink, J-Lo, and Toni Braxton are all the reason we need to speak of modesty to our daughters. (In an ironic twist, Lady Gaga is the most modest of them all in this photo review of breasts, bellies, and buttocks.) Meanwhile, some Christians are saying out loud that the modesty movement might be harmful to women. I'm reading what they have written and seeking God's heart so that I can learn from them. In fact, I'm even fine-tuning the language at my Secret Keeper Girl website to reflect some thoughts in their critique. (I so appreciate the good thinking of writer's like Jonathan Merritt who walks the fine line of embracing truth and demanding grace. He is posing questions, not casting undue and untruthful criticism.) My heart is aching at some of the things I'm reading from other writers: "Dannah Gresh's "Secret Keepers" is teaching girls to hate & be ashamed of their bodies. Absolutely deplorable, esp under the 'good xian' guise." Since my name keeps popping up, may I speak in to this?

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I'm Not Reading Fifty Shades of Grey

I'm not reading Fifty Shades of Grey. I wasn't planning to announce this, but I can't help myself. I told my husband, Bob, that I didn't really want to get involved. But then, I found out my girlfriend's 70-year-old mom has her name on a long wait list at the library to borrow Fifty Shades of Grey. And then my mom told me that a relative I love and respect for her strong faith had already devoured the book. She regretfully "can't get the images out of her head." So, here I am. In an  attempt to keep the images out of yours, I'd like to explain to you why I'm not reading Fifty Shades of Grey.

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Are You Boy Crazy?

Are you boy crazy? Well, take my little test to find out. Have you ever... •Ditched a friend for a guy? •Prayed endlessly that God would make a certain guy notice you? •Changed your relationship status before you knew how he felt for sure? •Posted a profile picture that had just a touch of the porn look? •Posted a profile picture that had an obvious porn look? •Had more than one guy in the mix at a time? •Daydreamed about what your life would be like as Mrs. (fill in the blank.) •Dated someone your parents disapproved of? •Cried because you’re single? •Expected something from your husband that only God can give? •Filled your journal with more thoughts about guys than God If you said yes to one or more of the above...baby, you have the craving.

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Should You Get The Gardasil Vaccine?

Since HPV is the only known cause of cervical cancer, pharmaceutical giants have done something to address it. This is no small thing. Cervical cancer is the second most common cancer in women. In recent years, a vaccination which protects a sexually active young woman against 4 of about 100 strains of HPV is not

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Mom, Did You Wait?

I was driving down the highway listening to the familiar voice of Dr. James Dobson. Suddenly the host asked his guest, “What is the most common question a young girl will ask her mom about sex?” Without delay the woman responded, “Mom, did you wait?” I pulled my minivan to the side of the highway and allowed

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