Tag: Ephesians 5:31
When you think about it, was the mail order bride service our forefather's used that different from eHarmony or Christian Mingle? Ok, ok! I know I just stepped on some feminists toes and I get that. There weren't, as far as we know, mail-order husbands. So, let's just get to the point of my brain's meandering today and level the playing field while we look for some top quality husband-material for you. Let me start with a question: what single quality most attracts you to a guy? (No really. Answer the question before you read on.)
"I’m just not seeing the message of grace presented in these purity and modesty movements," a woman recently wrote to me. "Why did Jesus die on the cross? We are righteous because of Jesus, not because of our works. ... I am all about ...waiting to have sex until marriage and using common sense in dressing in a manner that is respectful to yourself and those around you. But these are conversations that play such a minor role in the fabric of our lives. The Gospel is about Jesus and God’s grace, it’s not about purity." Her inquiry is deserving of consideration. Frankly, I was deeply troubled by it and wanted to right myself if I've been wrong. My heart pondered this question: "Is the way I teach modesty and purity—or the way you teach it or live it out— in contradiction to the powerful grace of God?" After a lot of prayer and study, I have an answer. Let me start with the ugly part...
One of my single, twenty-something team members returned from Christmas break with something of an epiphany having occurred. "I've made purity an idol in my life," she confessed. Memories of multiple blogs inserting this thought into the online Christian conversation ran through my head. Blogger Elizabeth Esther seemed to have started this snowballing conversation rolling. Rachel Held Evans, Boundless, and a number of others soon posed the question on their own blogs to perpetuate the debate. Before we knew it, we were reading grandiose claims such as "Virginity: Christianity's Main Idol." Of all the myths birthed and nurtured in the critique on the purity movement, this one brought the strongest response in my spirit. It is both the most truth-founded and most deceptive of the myths. A tricky one to be certain. While I believe it's possible that purity may be an idol in your life, it is a myth that purity is an idol. Before I reveal the logical fallacy in this trendy conversation, let me give you a few test questions to see if purity has become an idol in your life.