More than once, I'm sure you've been told that the Bible’s view of sex is old fashioned. It happened so long ago that there's no way it could possibly be relevant to what we're facing today! So we did some digging and decided that before we look at this “old-fashioned” essay by the Apostle Paul
"Good sex comes to those who wait." That was last week's claim by Her•meneutics blogger Courtney Reissig. Only, I should clarify that she ended the sentence with a question mark: "Good sex comes to those who wait?" And then her words decried the efforts of the abstinence and purity movement—my efforts, really—charging that we are guilty of "incentivizing abstinence with personal pleasure." To her credit, Courtney—whose work I've examined rather thoroughly and I'm fairly certain that if we shared a cup of coffee I'd enjoy her and find more common ground that different thinking—cited last year's New York Times article "In Hookups, Inequality Still Reigns." The article explained that women report having better sex in committed relationships than those having casual sex. Courtney argued that using studies like this to encourage virginal Christian singles to wait was akin to demanding a "cosmic exchange" with God. My purity now in exchange for great sex later, Ok God? "Promising great sex to those who wait for their wedding day is feeding off of our desire for self-fulfillment, not other-oriented service," wrote Reissig. Is it wrong to teach our children and young single adults that there are practical, pleasure-filled rewards in waiting for sex? Are we falling prey to using the world's model of sex education when we use studies revealing that sex is better inside committed relationships? And—what you really want to know—is sex better if you wait?