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“In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord...” The questions of motherhood poured out of her. Lord, do you see me? Could you change your mind on this one? Is there something I could do differently? Please, could you just let me have one baby boy? She pours out her soul-breaking pleadings to the God of the Universe.
I was drafted into the Mommy Wars when my first baby was barely in my womb. Sitting with some trusted friends, I mentioned the name of my OB/GYN. (Big mistake!) After an awkward moment of silence, one of the other women went on to coyly describe her OB/GYN with adjectives that might make you think he was a borderline miracle worker when it came to pain, God-like in securing the safety of the baby, and had a bedside manner that made him a comedian. In hushed whispers (BUT NOT TO ME), I later overheard the woman suggesting my doctor was virtually a serial killer. (They didn't think they should tell me that?) Unless you have a good pair of proverbial boxing gloves, beware of these top ten topics that fuel the Mommy Wars. Number 7 is worthy of the click on the video to get your blood pumping. (Please read with an air of sarcasm, or you'll be writing me hate mail!)
Last week, The Washington Post reported on new research revealing that the "princess culture" is damaging young girls. Is it? (My team has been researching the concept of "princess culture" for about nine months preparing for a new Secret Keeper Girl tour and I might have a different take on things than the many hyped-up headlines.) While modern princesses like Elsa, Merida, and Rapunzel have been applauded for breaking stereotypes, the overriding impact of a slow and steady stream of physically perfect female lead roles awaiting their prince is accused of doing measurable damage. The study, a first measuring social science data on the impact of "princess culture" reveals three specific concerns.
Every now and then—and with growing frequency—a single woman in her twenties or thirties confides in me how discouraged she is that there aren't any guys her age to date. "They're too busy playing video games to invest in the pursuit of family," said one. There's now some statistical evidence that the concern of these biological-clock-ticking females is very real. For the first time in 130 years (when life circumstances generally had extended families living together), a young adult is more likely to live at home with mom and dad than with a significant other. It's the most common form of living arrangements for twenty-something males. Since the 2004 coining of the word “adultescent,”[i] we’ve had something to call the young adult male who is so busy playing Call of Duty on his Playstation 4 that he doesn’t actually have a real life call of duty. Should you be worried about your son?
"Masturbating will make you go blind." So goes the old myth. (Many myths prevail surrounding masturbation. The most interesting may have been perpetuated by Dr. John Harvey Kellogg who thought that a proper diet would alleviate a man's desire to masturbate, and so he fed men under his care in a mental institution a special cereal he created. Kellogg didn't curb masturbation, but did become a cereal giant and many of us still eat Corn Flakes today with no impact on our sexual desires.) Recently, my husband and I were having dinner with a couple we greatly respect. The man is a well-studied theologian and beloved pastor. During a conversation about the overall crisis of purity in the Church at large, he referenced a Bible verse that made me wonder: "Is the notion that masturbation causes blindness really a myth after all?" I'd like to share that verse with you today, but first let's take a look at masturbation and ask the question: Is it a sin?
Girls, we can’t wear anything we want. God’s words says that if we love him, we will obey him and he wants us to wear certain things and not others. And HE...not the guy...is the ultimate reason we live modestly. I realize that all too many books on modesty & purity risk suggesting that if you’re just a good Christian girl who wears her chastity belt and a silver ring on her left index finger, your prince charming will come. Without even realizing it, you might make a deal with God: I’ll give my heart to You, and You send a husband my was. But RESPECT FOR GOD, not a guy is the goal. The point of modesty and purity is not to showcase yourself for a godly guy, but to showcase GOD to the world!
The feminine modesty texts are about sexual allurement and direct a woman to demonstrate self-control and respect in the way she presents herself. But does this mean men are off the hook? And am I saying that if women dress modestly, men will not lust. Girls, it's great if you read this, but today I want to talk to guys. And moms of guys. And girlfriends of guys. And sisters of guys. And any woman that can influence one. If any guys happen to be reading this I should probably start with this: don’t dress like the Abercrombie guy and for the love of all things decent pull your pants up over your boxers! (Imagine deafening eruptions of cheers from the women reading this!) But that's not what I really want or need to communicate today. Because it’s not what God’s word instructs me to say. Here's what I really have to say, guys: your lust is your responsibility. Period.
Here’s the thing. We don’t have "interns" at Pure Freedom. Event speakers, content writers, social media specialists, web designers, road managers, and administrative professionals, yes…but no interns. Interns follow orders and get coffee. We think there are more important and creative things to be done! So although we may send you on the occasional Starbucks
Is Christian culture sometimes formed more by secular lines of thinking than by biblical truth. Third wave feminism has posited the thought that teaching purity and modesty is a form of misogyny BECAUSE it is largely directed at women. They have even gone on the record that teaching modesty promotes rape culture. Does teaching modesty promote “rape culture”? A better question to begin with is this: does “rape culture” even exist? Last year, a TIME Magazine article declared that it was “Time To End Rape Culture Hysteria.” Writer Caroline Kitchens championed the report of the nations leading anti-sexual violence organization, RAINN, which rebuked the overemphasis on the concept of “rape culture” as a means of preventing rape, citing that 90% of rapes on college campuses are committed by 3% of the male population. RAINN argues that rape is the product of individuals who have decided to disregard the overwhelming cultural messages that rape is wrong. The fact is rape crime is on the decline. The National Crime Victimization Survey indicates that rape occurrence in the 1980’s was 2.4 per 1000 people. Now it is .4 per 1000. Even RAINN reports that sexual assault has fallen by more than 50% in recent years. That makes it no less vile, but it does mean we aren’t living in a rape culture. The “modesty promotes rape culture” idea is a feminist dogma. It is scripture that should be informing the Christian conversation on sexuality, modesty, purity, and sex crimes; not the leading voices of third wave feminism.