Much has been written and said in the Christian world about modesty. Mostly to women. But does this mean men are off the hook? Nope. Guys: your lust is your responsibility. Period.
Women could dress in burlap sacks from their neck to their toes and if you are training yourself to think of them as sexual objects, you will. But if you are training yourself to think of them as sisters of value, you will.
Here is your modesty verse gentlemen:
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:28 (ESV)
Guys, you are responsible for how you look at your Christian sister...and any other women.
I understand that you live in a culture that feeds you a constant IV drip of porn and sensuality! Your grandfathers did not struggle with lust in the same way that you do because they did not have to navigating sexting or Porn Hub.
But that is not an excuse to give in to the lust and be like everyone else, it simply means you cannot be complacent.
A woman should able to walk in front of you wearing anything and find herself PROTECTED by a godly man who has been feasting on the word of God so faithfully that his desire rises up give himself up for her.
Instead of “What can I get out of her?”
A godly man will say “What of myself can I give to protect her?”
Truth: Men are not off the hook and must train themselves to THINK with self-control in a culture that is not.